People use domestic violence charges against the other party all the time, whether there is a conviction on the record or there are only charges. In most cases, the judge will scrutinize the claims carefully, but such incidents can be used against you if convicted, which is why, if you are charged with domestic violence, you should fight that case and beat it, if at all possible. If it’s not possible, you should make sure the record clearly indicates the seriousness of the charge, especially if it was minor, because in a divorce, the other side will try to make sure it’s held against you.